Relationships fail not because we have stopped loving but because we first stopped imagining. - James Hillman

Relationship Mentoring

 
 

Intimate relationships are simultaneously the most beautiful and painful experiences we can have as a human being. Many of us weren’t given the best examples in our homes we grew up in. To make matters worse, our cultural models have often been just as broken. After nearly three decades of loving partnership, Michelle and I have reflected on what has kept us united, ever-growing and full of spark for the long haul. We mentor individuals or couples as they navigate the infinite adventure of loving partnership - whether that takes the form of a dating relationship, a marriage, raising children or otherwise.

We have found that most couples wait until the nuclear button is pressed by one or both partners before seeking support. The problems most couples seek assistance with have been alive within the partnership for an average of six years by the time they get to therapy. That’s a long time to get used to some unhelpful patterns.

Thankfully many of these difficulties can be addressed with support and guidance and some helpful tools. We recommend couples in crisis commit to weekly coaching for a minimum of 3 months to really get established with better patterns.

We also are passionate about normalizing relationship “check-ups”. It’s certainly neither necessary nor wise to always defer the maintenance with what we value. In automotive terms; it’s always easier to change the oil than rebuild a seized engine.

Helping couples who are doing well DEEPEN AND DEVELOP their love is one of our greatest joys. Yes, love can get even better and stronger and more fulfilling!